This memorial website was created to remember our dearest
Mama Margaret AGBENAGABESONG who was born in
Cameroon on
January 1, 1929 and passed away on
September 26, 2019. You will live forever in our memories and hearts.
BIOGRAPHY OF LATE MAMA MARGARET AGBENAGAH BESONG
Born in the heart of the planting season some 90 years ago in the village of Nguti in the South West region, Mama Margaret Agbenaga was the fourth and, at the time of her death, only surviving child of a family of 5 children (two girls and three boys), born to the great woman Iye Paulina Tukubatosoh and Pa Joseph Ekangaki.
Fondly called IYE AGBEH, She spent most of her life in Nguti and was so sentimentally attached to her community that she couldn’t bear her forceful departure from her abode due to the ongoing crisis in the South West our region.
She lived a very honest life in which in all settings she was vehemently opposed to double standards.
She was strict in her life and would not take nonsense from anybody. Driven by the search for concrete results, she didn’t give room for distractions of any sort during her life time, refused to waste time in futile activities that did not lead to concrete achievements.
She also preached and enjoyed peace and love which reigned in her family she passed all these qualities to her children whom she cherished passionately.
IYE AGBEH enjoyed total respect in her community as the president of ‟Egba‟, the highly respected women’s that oversaw the strict respect of the traditions of our land. Without being a trained Lawyer, her impartial nature and instinctive sense of justice made her a celebrated community judge in Nguti where she treated issues with unequaled objectivity.
She never went to medical school but, learning from the treatment she received following an accident that she suffered in her teens, she developed the skills of a physiotherapist. She was so gifted in treating fractures and sprains that her house took on the character of an orthopedic ward, saving patients from getting crippled and doing this for free.
She was crowned severally as the mother of the year in Nguti by…
Above all, Iye Agbeh lived and died in the Lord. She was a dedicated Christian and communicant of the Presbyterian Church in Cameroon and pioneer member of the Christian Women fellowship in Nguti. Mama was patroness of several groups and chief launcher at fund raising and Harvest Thanksgiving events in the Nguti town congregation.
She rested in the lord on September 26, 2019 at the Padre Pio Hospital in Douala, after a brief illness, leaving behind six of her eight biological children, 24 grandchildren, and 16 great grand children, nephews and nieces, a colony of non biological children and the entire Nguti community to pray for the peaceful repose of her gentle soul.
REST IN PEACE MAMA
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TRIBUTE TO MAMA MARGARET
Words alone cannot express the sadness I feel at this painful moment. I still cannot believe you’ve gone forever. I miss you and the entire family will miss you more. Since I was born your love and support for me has been steadfast, because of your humble and warm nature, I always felt comfortable with you. Your death has Left a big vacuum in my life and the lives of the family members you have left behind. May your goodness bring blessings and prosperity to your children and family.
Rest in peace grandmother until we meet again.
Your grandson (Ayompe constine Osongty)
To MY BRAVE AUNT AND “BIG MAMMY”
What an aunt and “big mammy” as we fondly called you. You would not imagine how special you were to me.
- An aunt who always stood by me when all others stood against me;
- An aunt who always saw value in me and considered me credible when all others saw nothing in me;
- An aunt who at the sound of my voice or footsteps could identify that I am the one passing or approaching and will even ask
“Clara ma ne eh” or “seke Clara mo ni atuome neeeh” or “Mpah Clara moni a yampe neh”
- An aunt who showed me love and concern even when all others forsook and abandoned me in my time of trial as if I had committed a crime no one ever committed before by having a child while still in school.
Infact, no one can ever be compared to you in my life. You were more than an intimate friend. I remember times without number here in Douala you would appear in my kitchen and even when I insist that you stay in the parlour you will refuse and stay with me in the kitchen. While am cooking, we would have intimate moments of deep discussions on issues of the heart concerning this family and even Nguti. You told me I always reminded you of your late brother Takobi because though I am a woman, yet I speak like him and have a brave heart like him.
I appreciate your protective nature like mother hen. I remember when I started my career in Nguti with the Wildlife Conservation Society (WCS) and was renting in Pa Atem’s compound in Nkapa. There was a night I dreamt someone gave me food in my dream and I woke up with severe headache, you went wild, shouting on the streets with palm fronts in your hand, pouring curses, threats and promising hell to anyone responsible for such evil acts if he/she do not decease from it. I can go on and on because this is just one of your numerous protective and loving actions. If I were to list everything, there will be no space left in this booklet, but even as I stop here for now, I can still hear the sound of your voice calling “Crara Ernest” or Crara eeeeeeeh”. Adieu aunty and big mammy till we meet to part no more.
May your gentle soul rest in the bossom of the Almighty
Your niece (Clara Ayompe)
DEAREST GREAT GRAND MOTHER,
How are you doing? Since I knew you till now, I came to celebrate your death. I wrote this letter for you because you were always there for your family and we take care of you. Let you go to heaven and I shall pray for you.
Your great granddaughter
Enow Roselyne Angel Mary
TRIBUTE TO MY DARLING GRANDMA
My dear grandma of 90 years of age passed away on the 28th of September 2019 at 8:40am. No one ever had the mother and son love like I did. My grandma loved me more that her own life. I am a big boy now thanks to her care. She hustled to make me not to be sad. I’m so hurt that I wish I could shout my pain out to the whole world and be felt even for a second. There is no love greater that the love of a grandmother and grandson. I’m writing this with tears flowing down as I am so hurt from the inside. Oh mom! You have been the best thing in my life and always will be.
The day you died, I kissed your face four times and held you close to me because I knew that would be the last time I will hold you for the rest of my life. You were so sick, in so much pain, I knew you were afraid to die, I hope you have found comfort where you are. I do remember how I held your hand and lay my head on your shoulder, even at that moment I couldn’t imagine life without you. People talk about broken hearts in songs and movies, but until that moment I had never known a true broken heart. Over and over I thought “how can I live without you?” I watched you live, I watch you die every day I look up at the sky I know you’re waiting for me.
My staying with you grandma in the last days of your life, I told you everything would be ok and you went through the stages of death very slowly, it was so painful for me to see you go. I am blessed to know you in my life as my grandma. I promise to do all you want me to do in this world. I am going to live the way you taught me. You shall never be forgotten. I love you so much, hug and kisses.
RIP Grandma
Your grandson (Akime Besong)
Dear Grandma
I am blessed to have known you as my grandmother. You were really a blessing in my life and the life of my mother and brothers. It is an honour to call you grand mom. It is appointed for man to die once and after this, judgement but this we pray that mercy reigns over judgement. Wishing you a blissful rest in eternity.
Arrey Francis (grandson)
