Mama Margaret AGBENAGABESONG

TRIBUTE TO MAMA MARGARET

Words alone cannot express the sadness I feel at this painful moment. I still cannot believe you’ve gone forever. I miss you and the entire family will miss you more. Since I was born your love and support for me has been steadfast, because of your humble and warm nature, I always felt comfortable with you. Your death has Left a big vacuum in my life and the lives of the family members you have left behind. May your goodness bring blessings and prosperity to your children and family.

Rest in peace grandmother until we meet again.

Your grandson (Ayompe constine Osongty)

To MY BRAVE AUNT AND “BIG MAMMY”

What an aunt and “big mammy” as we fondly called you. You would not imagine how special you were to me.

• An aunt who always stood by me when all others stood against me;
• An aunt who always saw value in me and considered me credible when all others saw nothing in me;
• An aunt who at the sound of my voice or footsteps could identify that I am the one passing or approaching and will even ask

“Clara ma ne eh” or “seke Clara mo ni atuome neeeh” or “Mpah Clara moni a yampe neh”

• An aunt who showed me love and concern even when all others forsook and abandoned me in my time of trial as if I had committed a crime no one ever committed before by having a child while still in school.

Infact, no one can ever be compared to you in my life. You were more than an intimate friend. I remember times without number here in Douala you would appear in my kitchen and even when I insist that you stay in the parlour you will refuse and stay with me in the kitchen. While am cooking, we would have intimate moments of deep discussions on issues of the heart concerning this family and even Nguti. You told me I always reminded you of your late brother Takobi because though I am a woman, yet I speak like him and have a brave heart like him.

 

I appreciate your protective nature like mother hen. I remember when I started my career in Nguti with the Wildlife Conservation Society (WCS) and was renting in Pa Atem’s compound in Nkapa. There was a night I dreamt someone gave me food in my dream and I woke up with severe headache, you went wild, shouting on the streets with palm fronts in your hand, pouring curses, threats and promising hell to anyone responsible for such evil acts if he/she do not decease from it. I can go on and on because this is just one of your numerous protective and loving actions. If I were to list everything, there will be no space left in this booklet, but even as I stop here for now, I can still hear the sound of your voice calling “Crara Ernest” or Crara eeeeeeeh”. Adieu aunty and big mammy till we meet to part no more.

May your gentle soul rest in the bossom of the Almighty

Your niece (Clara Ayompe)

DEAREST GREAT GRAND MOTHER,

How are you doing? Since I knew you till now, I came to celebrate your death. I wrote this letter for you because you were always there for your family and we take care of you. Let you go to heaven and I shall pray for you.

Your great granddaughter

Enow Roselyne Angel Mary

TRIBUTE TO MY DARLING GRANDMA

My dear grandma of 90 years of age passed away on the 28^th of September 2019 at 8:40am. No one ever had the mother and son love like I did. My grandma loved me more that her own life. I am a big boy now thanks to her care. She hustled to make me not to be sad. I’m so hurt that I wish I could shout my pain out to the whole world and be felt even for a second. There is no love greater that the love of a grandmother and grandson. I’m writing this with tears flowing down as I am so hurt from the inside. Oh mom! You have been the best thing in my life and always will be.

 

The day you died, I kissed your face four times and held you close to me because I knew that would be the last time I will hold you for the rest of my life. You were so sick, in so much pain, I knew you were afraid to die, I hope you have found comfort where you are. I do remember how I held your hand and lay my head on your shoulder, even at that moment I couldn’t imagine life without you. People talk about broken hearts in songs and movies, but until that moment I had never known a true broken heart. Over and over I thought “how can I live without you?” I watched you live, I watch you die every day I look up at the sky I know you’re waiting for me.

 

My staying with you grandma in the last days of your life, I told you everything would be ok and you went through the stages of death very slowly, it was so painful for me to see you go. I am blessed to know you in my life as my grandma. I promise to do all you want me to do in this world. I am going to live the way you taught me. You shall never be forgotten. I love you so much, hug and kisses.

RIP Grandma

Your grandson (Akime Besong)

Dear Grandma

I am blessed to have known you as my grandmother. You were really a blessing in my life and the life of my mother and brothers. It is an honour to call you grand mom. It is appointed for man to die once and after this, judgement but this we pray that mercy reigns over judgement. Wishing you a blissful rest in eternity.

Arrey Francis (grandson)

MY SWEET MUM

My sweet dear mom of 90 years of age that passed away on the 28th of September 2019. Mom no one has ever had the mother and daughter love like I did. You were everything to me and my children. You were my father, mother, husband and my all. You made me feel so much love and importance to the family. You alone took care of all my children until your dying days. I don’t think I will ever forget you in my life mommy, you were and will still be a great woman for ever you will be. I’m so hurt that I wish I could shout my pains out in front of the world and be felt even for a second. There is no love greater that the love of a mother that you give to me.  I love you so much mama. I will end here! but I want you to know that I will always love and remember you. Do take care of yourself for me and may your soul rest in peace.

Your daughter (Cecilia Mola)

MY BELOVED AUNTY/DAUGHTER

Daughter because i am the first among your nephews and nieces to name my child after you (Agbenagah). From that day, you decided to call me “Iyie Fanny” meaning Fanny my mum.

 

You always said and I quote “Nzeh mi nweh Fanny mo ako ajemi abo akali njah” meaning if I die, Fanny will take over the responsibility of bringing peace in the family as she always did. Finally you have fulfilled your promise and left me with a heavy load but failed to direct me on how to go about it. You know my inability to handle the large family you have left behind. So why have you done this to me my dear aunty?

 

I miss you so much aunty. You showed us so much love and care whenever I visited, you would hurriedly call your daughter Ceci Mola to bring food for us to eat together. I would sit on the long bench at your veranda while you would sit on the low chair opposite me and we will be eating and narrating the event that had taken place in the village. Aunty with who shall I sit and chat again?

 

Aunty please permit me to recall a few things you used to say and my children and would laugh out our lungs:

• Ni bili me Nyake-meaning someone should take your phone and beep Nyake;
• Nti miti porson- meaning I am a patient;
• Floor member- meaning plumber.

 

Aunty we miss you so much. You will remain in our hearts forever.

May your soul rest in perfect peace.

Your niece (Fanny Ayompe)

Grandma my discussion partner. Yes I am your special grandchild, because you told me so in relation to the sense of responsibility I showed towards certain issues.
You never went to school, but could sacrifice your all for your children to study, because you believe in the Legendary Nelson Mandela's speech on the power of education. Whereby he said " it's only through education will the child of a farmer become a doctor, lawyer, banker... Yes I do remember the difficulties I faced having a formal education. You grandma bought me a reader " Basic English for Cameroon pupils book 7".
Yes because I had a grandma like you, I automatically I was one of the prestigious pupils who had a reader in the class.

Looking at this attached photo of us in 2018. Gives me a flashback memory of our wonderful discussion moments, such as when I visited Douala to see you. I can still feel the pains in your expressions as you narrated the sad story on how you escaped death from numerous gun shots. Yes, it was really a sad experience for a woman of your age. I know the tears that dripped from your eyes that day was a clear sign of the pains you felt in your heart as you were forced out of your home town for safety. 
After a year in Douala, you decided to visit your Pappi in Limbe. Yes grandma it was a very wonderful and mind bursting experience, to have spent such treasured moments with you. Although the stay was cut short by the SONARA incident, but the million smiles on your face as you entertained the Bebum women in Limbe with different talking points, made my happiness complete.Yes I am blessed to have you as my grandma,who always seeks for means to better her generation.
I know you decided to take a rest in the other room, still you memory Will forever live in us Adieu